Wow, thank you, Dahlia! Your way of thinking is not weird at all, I think it’s beautiful and rational at the same time. You can be proud of yourself, don’t ever let someone tell you that your way of thinking about love is weird. It isn’t. Lots of love back, you are great! xo
Yes, I bet that day will come, but you shouldn’t live for it. I know this world tells you that once you’ve found ‘the one’, you’ll be happy and loved and the sun will always shine. But it’s not like that and you can find happiness in things that are much more lasting and reliable than the appreciation of another person. Feeling happy and content with yourself starts right now - if you want to. It’s up to you to decide that you are more than the hand you can hold on a friday night. That you can shine for other reasons than some promises whispered in your ear while watching the sunset. You’ve got a heart and it can beat for other things than someone else’s appreciation. So go, and find things that make your heart beat faster. Look around you and see that there are people who love you - and love them back. Look around and see that there are people who do not love you - love them anyway. You are great, but it comes from within. Find yourself and love yourself.
Everything sounds a bit strange. I don’t see any good reason for you two to break up. The only problem is that he doesn’t want to be committed to someone right now. It happens to loads of guys and girls at that age. They just want to be ‘free’ and I guess that has nothing to do with you. But talk to him and tell him that you do not want to break up, that your feelings are still the same. But if he doesn’t want to go on, he has to be honest with you as well. Even though it’s hard, you have to talk with him about it and accept the consequences.
Good luck xx
Wow, Lara, I don’t know what to say. Thank you for all this love, it feels like a beautiful sunset after a rainy day (and it was a very, very rainy day today). xxxxx
Of course it’s okay to be single for a long time! Being single gives you a great opportunity to learn things about yourself and to invest time in unfolding your personality. It’s a time to give yourself the colours you love and exploring the world without being committed to someone else. Enjoy it! Don’t be too afraid that it’s too long. You should never force yourself into a relationship. Your time will come, I promise.
Lots of love, Chris
answering all the messages in my inbox atm, i’ll try to upload some words today or at least this week! love you all xoxx
If I could bottle all the marvellous things I saw during my vacation, I’d hold it close to my heart on days like this when the sky is full of sorrows.
One day you will be glad to be able to open your eyes and feel the sun tickle your skin.
You really think you’ll still feel like this years from now? Of course not. Don’t be so bitter. Don’t have so much self-pity. Yes, maybe you will always remember his promises and laughter and everything else. You might fall in love with him in your head over and over again. There are cold nights and hopeless mornings. But if you truly want to get out of it, you can. You can, because there is a strong power inside of you. It’s called love. And right now, you probably hate love more than anything in this world. But don’t push it away yet. It’s the only thing that will save you. And I’m not talking about romantic love. Romantic love is only a little piece of this greater Love. Romantic love can be impressive and overwhelming and passionate and strong. But it can also break hearts. And I’m really sorry that it broke yours.
But I hope you can look further than that. There is another love, a greater love. It’s the love for the world. The unconditional love for your family. The love for your friends. The love for your neighbour. The love for the helpless and hopeless. There is the love for new opportunities and surprises. There is the love for that sunset you just needed. There is the love for the sound of the raindrops on your window on a day you can stay inside. There is the love for strangers on the bus. The love for music that heals the soul, for books that make your heart sing again. The love for learning new things. The love for yourself. The love of accepting yourself each and every morning again. Of deciding that you are worth it. The love for life that will set you free. That will warm your heart and open new doors. You are more than your broken heart. You are more than this guy ‘you will never get over’. I hope you will discover this.
Tons of love,