The River Speaks
November 2011
39 posts
There's this guy I like, and our mutual friends say's he's interested in me too, and that they wants to 'put us together'.. but then there's this other guy, who's my friend and we write baby and hearts and stuff to eachother, FOR ME IT'S ALL ON JOKE, and I thought it was so for him too.. today he printscreened it and put it on facebook, now our friends think we've got something.. but I dont want to hurt the other guy who I acctually do like. Maybe he thinks there’s something going on too..?
Hi ! <3
I think that the first thing you have to do, is talking with the guy who’s your friend. Just make clear that you do like him as a friend, and that it was just fun for you. You’ll find a way to say that, you know him better than me :). After that, maybe you can put something on facebook so that everybody sees that it was just a joke. Or just tell everybody that you guys are just friends (who are just crazy together). (haha, I use a lot of ‘just’ ;p) And then, you can go to the guy you like. Maybe you can let one of your mutual friends tell him that you’re not together with that other guy? Just try to talk to him and have fun, don’t worry too much! Love, me.
Heejj, Ik heb echt even jouw hulp nodig. (I am aksing you this in Dutch because my english is bat and I know your are dutch). Ik vind al een hele tijd een jongen leuk die ik op kamp heb leren kennen. Daar was hij echt heel leuk, stoer en lief, maar daarna begon hij mij te negeren en heb ik besloten het maar te laten rusten. Maar sinds vandaag kijkt hij mij steeds aan en lacht hij naar mij, waardoor ik dus helemaal geen idee meer heb wat ik nou moet doen. Kan jij me misschien helpen? X.
Hey hey!
Hm, dat is wel heel raar inderdaad. Ik weet niet hoe het nu is? Maar als je ‘m echt heel leuk vindt, denk ik dat je gewoon gezellig met ‘m moet gaan doen, mits hij ook zo tegen jou doet. Als hij je weer gaat negeren enzo, denk ik dat je moet proberen om het inderdaad maar te laten rusten. Anders zit je je er ook alleen maar druk om te maken enzo! Dus kijk het nog even aan, en maak je er niet te druk om <3 Dikke knuffel, xxx
i love your blog. <333 you and i have a similar writing style.
Thank you so much, and I would love to read something you wrote! :)
And I love your blog, it’s adorable! X C.
Hi.. So, I dated this guy a while ago, his name is Seamus. And we never really got to hang out because of his football stuff, and we eventually just broke up. A couple of nights ago, though, he texted me and said, ".. i still really like you." I told him that I miss him too and things were good. We decided to just see where things went, but I thought I should be honest with him about something. While we were dating, I cheated on him with one of my guy friends, and now Seamus won't even talk to m
Hey sweetie,
I think it’s quite normal that he reacts like this, don’t you think? At least, I would react like this too. He can’t directly say: ‘Oh, okay, let’s forget it and go on.’ You cheated on him while he trusted you. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, but it’s broken now. You need to build it up again. Maybe you can write him a letter about it. Tell him why you did it, and that you feel so sorry about it and that you will never do it again, and why you will never do it again etc. Don’t push things, it really needs time. Wish you all the luck of the world, xxx.
Hi pretty, I'm so sad. I'm in love with the same boy from 6 years ago and i don't know what to do because we sometimes go out together alone you know? and it makes me thinks that he's interested to have something with me but today, he didn't speak to me so much.. and when we're alone he's always hugging me and ... i don't what to do, what to think... help me! (sorry for my bad english, i'm spanish! alot of kisseeees! <3
Hm, I think that it’s quite obvious that you two like each other? You go out together alone, he’s hugging you, he makes you think he’s interested in you. I don’t think that all this happens if he doesn’t like you. Maybe he’s just tired or sad, and maybe it has nothing to do with you that he didn’t speak to you so much. Don’t feel like it’s your fault or something, don’t doubt about everything. Maybe you can surprise him with something! :-) Hug, Chris x
You have an amazing blog. You're words mean a lot to me & I can relate to them deeply. Never stop writing! (: -sg
Thank you so much and I promise I never will! <3
i got a job w/ my friend and i met this boy at our job and i knew i liked him the minute i saw him. my friend always said 'oh he likes you!' He would call me beautiful and make me laugh.We all went 2the movies one night and my friend shared some sad secrets from her past about how she wanted to hurt herself. Now all he does is talk to her. He completely avoids me, the worst part is she FLIRTS back! Ive told her shes not being a good friend cuz she knows I like him alot! why isnt he talkin 2me?
Hm, that must be hard for you. I think that you should first have a good conversation with your friend. If she’s a good friend and she really knows what he means to you, she will stop flirting. So talk with her about it. And maybe he’s only talking to her, because he doesn’t want to give her the feeling that he didn’t listen to what she said and show her that she can trust him. It doesn’t mean that he completely forgot about you! So, try to make contact with him again. Maybe you can go to a movie with him alone or do something else! Be yourself, don’t try to be someone else and it’ll be okay! <3
hey (: so there is this guy in my school that i like. we talk on facebook nearly everyday and he's always super cute and adorable. but a friend of mine and him used to date but he broke up with her, but he still likes her just doesn't want a relationship with her. i always give him hints about liking him, but he doesn't seem interested at all. any advice for me? xoxo
Hey sweetie,
Hm, that’s hard. Well, it’s a good start that you guys already talk a lot on facebook. I think that you should just talk more with him ‘in real life’. And he broke up with her, because he doesn’t want a relationship with her. Maybe he’s not totally over her, but he doesn’t want to be with her any more. Just try to talk more, laugh more with him. If he’s really not interested, I can’t help that of course. And you shouldn’t endlessly go on with making him like you (I don’t think that’s a normal sentence, sorry hahah, you know what I mean.). Just relax and be yourself! Lots of love, Chris x
i really like this one guy. but i dont know if he likes me/hates me. he acts like a perfect gentleman, so there's no chance of hooking up at a party. He never makes dirty jokes. i really cant tell if he likes me we have some mutual friends but i dont know what to do.
Hm, if you really like him, you can just try to talk to him and do things you both like to do, instead of going to/hooking up at a party. And maybe when you get to know him, he’s really different. People are always different when you get to know them! Big hug, X
hi sweetie! about one month ago, a boy added me to facebook. i didn't know who was him at first, but then we started to talk and i remembered him. i know him for years. when we were younger, he was in love with me. years went by, and a lot of time we didn't talk, not even knew his surname. but now we have talked a lot and i think i'm very interested in him. the problem is that he goes out to a lot of parties that my parents don't allow me to go, and maybe he thinks badly of me... what can i do?
Hey sweetie, sorry for this late answer!
Well, I don’t think that there’s really a problem. He’s just different than you at some points, you don’t have to be a copy of him. I think that you just need a good conversation with him, maybe just ask him if he thinks that you’re stupid because you don’t go to those parties. And I don’t think that’ll be a problem for him! If it is, I think it’s his fault, not yours. Don’t be afraid! Big hug, moix
how can i do if i have fallen in love with a boy that doesn't know me? shall i talk with him? he's one year older than me, but he's so shy! and he looks at me all the breaks when i look at him... the only way that we can talk is on facebook, but i'm afraid that he won't answer me... what can i do?
Yeah, I think that you should try to make a move. It starts with talking on facebook, and then it’s much easier to start a conversation ‘in real life’. If he’s always looking at you, I do think that he will answer you back! Don’t be afraid! <3 Blessings and hugs, Chris X
How do I get over a girl? I loved her with everything. I know she's no good for me and I should never get back together with her. It's been awhile since we stopped actually dating. I just need to feel ok again. Time's not helping. How do I get better?
Hello! <3 First, it’s a good thing that you realize that she’s no good for you and that you should never get back together with her. That’s the beginning. They say time is helping, and it is it, but you only see that at the end. So for now, I hope I can help you.
What helps for me is, to write things down or to draw. It doesn’t have to be beautiful, just write/draw what you feel. Write down all her flaws and stupid things and all your hopes for the future and your dreams about love. Or just draw lines and scratches. And listen to music. Music always helps, not matter in what situation you are. Sing along as loud as you can, cry when you hear something recognizable. Important too: cry when you want to and laugh when you want to. Don’t hide your emotions too much. Talk with a friend, go out, go to the movies or to an amusement park. Go out swimming or walking. Do something you haven’t done for a long time. You know, just try to not think about her everyday. Don’t go to her facebook page or something like that. Do nice things and enjoy little things. Get out of the rut! And day by day, little by little, you’ll see that she’s less important for you. Every day a little less. Finally, one more thing: look around! There are so much more girls around you. Go to new places, meet new people. There are 7 billion people here, there’s someone else for you! Someone who’s so much better than she is. Enjoy life! Big hug, Christianne.
Ps. take a look at http://justlittlethings.tumblr.com
I see all these people asking you questions about their life, so here's mine: there's this guy. I haven't known him long, just a couple of weeks, but I've started to really like him. He makes me laugh so hard, we share the same religion, and he acts like he's into me too. The thing is, he's 'talking' to another girl(aka they're about to date) I feel like if I'm going to make a move it needs to be fast. DO I make a move? Or do I hang back and just let my feelings go? I'm scared for either choice.
Hey you! <3
Hm, I don’t think that you have to hang back and let your feelings go, as long as he’s not together with her. They’re dating or something like that, but you can do that too with him. Just ask him if he likes to drink something with you or go to a movie, just something fun, you know. If you don’t try it, you’ll always be wondering. And you guys already have a lot of fun together and well.. there’s a good chance he likes you back. Maybe you can ask him about that girl, so you know how he thinks about it. Don’t give up, believe in yourself! X
First, I wanna say that your tumblr is amazing. I just went trough all the pages, I love & adore it ! It's amazing how you're helping all those people, & the texts you write,I completely feel the same :( I'm so in love with this boy, I know him because of my best friend. He's always that sweet & nice to me, I just don't know how to explain my feelings to him. I'm so afraid he's not feeling the same. I'm feeling bad when I don't see him, I just don't know what to do anymore :(
Hey, thank you so much! <3
I know exactly how you feel, and I don’t know how to explain it either, but I think that it’s most important that you just try to see him a lot. I mean, he’s always sweet & nice to you, so there’s a good chance that he might like you. Maybe you can go to a movie or something like that? Or first you go to the movies with more people including him, and later you can say: ‘hey, it was nice, shall we go again?’ Well okay, you know what I mean right hahaha. And well.. maybe you can tell your best friend something about it. If he’s your best friend, you surely can :) Good luck sweetie! <3
Hey chris, im the girl who was in love with 2 guys.Everything is solved, thanks to you!! I discovered my friend, was so stupid, and he argued with me, so i dont talk to him much now. But, i have told by BF that i think i liked her cousin, and guess what? She told me he liked me too!! OMG. im soo happy and thankful to you :) I owe you a big big favour. Now, my bf is going to tell her cousin i told her i liked him.. and lets see what happens. I'll let you know, obviously. THANK YOU SO MUCH CHRIS!!
Yaaaaaay, I’m só happy to hear this! It feels so good that something I said actually worked out, ‘cause I just say what I think it’s the best to do, but it’s so hard if you don’t really know the situation and how people are etc. and well, to hear this.. you have no idea what this means to me! Really, let me know what happened! Thank YOU! Big hug, C! Xxx
